No response from the teacher yet. I'm frustrated and angry...gotta try and keep a lid on it. But me being 'anxiety girl' - I'm leaping to all possible conclusions.

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I'm having visions of her ranting to others about my wanting a meeting and pretending to not get my email. Me saying "if you aren't prepared to be professional and adult I will speak with the Principal directly".

Then I hear that she had a hospital appointment yesterday afternoon. Oh great, I've heard she is trying to get pregnant....I bet she is pregnant.....she'll blame her hormones. So what?!  I'll say "pregnancy is NOT an illness and you'll just have to be professional and contain yourself....hormones are not permission to shame, humiliate and bully".

And I'll be mighty fucked off if she has a successful pregnancy (that's just going to upset how I feel about my miscarriage)- and if she does I hope she has an active boy......ooooh ouch meeeooww.

And then there's the thought that she's going to deny everything (at this point I will have only referred to what I have witnessed), I'll be made to feel like I'm just stirring etc etc. And things could get worse for ***** for my having brought the issue up. But I have to; not just for my son's sake but all his classmates too.

Of course this is just my thoughts. And if things do pan out as I've imagined...I'll just try my utmost to remain calm and poised, end the conversation and take my findings (I've documented everything) to the Principal.

Oh I feel ill.....I'm so tense, wound up....my head feels like it is in a vice and going to explode. I feel like I might vomit.

Meet the teacher

I was going to wait until I had gathered 'evidence' from a third party (third parent teacher help) but no....bugger it.

After my weekly session with my psychologist I have come to realise that that is how I tend to deal with things - not value my own feeling or evidence as being enough to want to do something about. So I get angrier and angrier at the person I believe to done wrong and angrier and angrier at myself for having not been assertive enough to do anything about it. That's what happened over the weekend...I stewed and stewed, got angrier and angrier and made myself sick with stress and worry and couldn't sleep and feel more tired (if that's possible) and run down and sad...more and more crying and thinking I'm going to die or have a brain haemorrhage (and die).

It's easier to turn my feelings of anxiety about dealing a problem into physical you see - cos I feel like physical problems could be more serious (leading to death) and therefore more worthy of help (apparently - all sounds a bit Freudian to me).

Anway, I'm not waiting on hearing from the third party - I'm going to trust my feelings and am going do something about it based on what I've seen and heard.

I sent an email:


Hi ***** (teacher's name),

I would like to arrange a time this week to come and see you and catch up with how ***** (son's name) is progressing in class. Would one day straight after school suit?

Cheers,

***** (my name).



I'll keep you all posted on how it goes of course :P

Teacher as bully - part two - food poisoning/stomach bug.

And still it goes on - according to one source/spy.  However, I'm not sure how reliable this source is. I'm going ask a few questions of another parent helper next week. If this parent helper confirms what has been said already - then I'm going to email *****'s teacher and set up a meeting to discuss *****'s behaviour in class.

I've been told that ***** is being left out of performance practise, been made to stand behind a whiteboard and stare at the ceiling for periods of up to 20 min. I don't know who or what to believe.

It breaks my heart to think that my son might be being singled out for taking off frustrations out on and making an embarrassment or example of. Worse...he could get left behind, be disadvantaged in his learning - all because his teacher might not be able to cope with him - or simply has taken a dislike to him.

AND she can't spell, has serious grammatical issues - I'm not sure I want someone like that teaching my child to read and write. Her job title in her email signature is spelt incorrectly, she doesn't know which there, their, they're, to or too to use when.....grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

In other frustrations - I think I have food poisoning or a stomach bug. Woke up before 1 am with stomach cramps....have made SEVERAL trips to the toilet to do extremely watery diarrhoea (i.e. peeing out my bum). Not pleasant.....I'm so sore, crampy and tired and headachey, gas pains under shoulders - how much more can my poor body survive?! To top it all off I have period cramps too - as you can imagine I feel very unclean and gross. Why does this all keep happening?

PLEASE!!!! HAVEN"T I BEEN DEALT ENOUGH ALREADY?!!!! CRY sob cry whimper.

My son's teacher might be a bully

I know my son, ***** can be a little toad sometimes. He's a boy...he's active..he finds it hard to sit still....but he hears everything, picks up on everything and is very bright. He gets bored easily.
A couple of weeks ago two women told me that they felt my son was being picked on by his teacher. These women do teacher help twice a week in my son's classroom. They noticed that ***** gets sent into 'time-out',' the thinking spot',' naughy spot' or whatever you want to call it very frequently (most days in fact) and for seemingly trivial things when other kids are getting up to much worse. He's been left out of practises for school productions and told he will be able to join back in when he can show he can behave. Other kids have been trying to stick up for him! He's only 5 - he's a lovely cuddly, kind wee boy - he has wonderful empathy for others.
Well...I didn't take too much notice. I gave the teacher the benefit of the doubt and some credit for having to deal with a lot, boys being boys etc. As I said I know ***** can be a little $%#* sometimes.

That was until today - today when I witnessed it for myself:

So....I was waiting outside the classroom in the sun - for the bell to go. I could see ***** but he didn't see me. He was sitting nice and quietly. Next thing I hear Mrs Teacher go off at him....."***** and Sajid if you don't sit properly we can't get this done before the bell goes (handing out books)". "***** sit properly". And then "Class, is this how we sit properly (no response from any of them)?" Poor ***** looked confused and went bright red, he didn't know what he was doing wrong or what he was expected to do. I moved over so that Mrs Teacher could see that I was there and gave her my hardest glare...he wasn't doing anything wrong! Others kids were standing, moving around, talking, laughing...not even sitting. How dare you make an example and embarrassment of my son! Fuckin' bitch. I don't trust her now and I hope to hell she doesn't change my precious boy into someone with no empathy.....

I am so upset and heartbroken.....I feel like my whole body has sunk into the ground. I've cried. I'm confused...I don't know what to do about it......AND.......

Another thing; a friend who has her son in the same class asked me "what I would do if ***** came home and told me that another kid had been touching his willy while on the mat?" Because that is exactly what her son came home and told her! What the hell is going on in that class?

Turns out that the boy suspected of inappropriate touching slaps my son often - but does he get sent to time out....no he doesn't.....he gets a final warning, then another and another......(so I'm told).